to the second: Well, I think I can choose what I read and what not.
I choose not to read spam that gets delivered to my email address - it doesn't mean I like it being there :-) The other way to look at it is while you may simply ignore such messages, that doesn't necessarily mean that everyone will!
to the first: I think I can decide whom I give my informations. If I want to share it with everyone on this site, I would do that. But when I ask for the code of something and he wants to give it only to me, because he likes my work or whatever?
If you really